Monday, December 8, 2008

Sugar Daddies Revisited

I noticed how much controversy my little date with Sugar Daddy Pete (SDP) generated the other week, so I decided to clear up a few things on the whole Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby thing.
I really didn't expect to see the lively (for lack of a better word) discussion between you guys. I was going to weigh in, but then it just got way too long to leave in the comments section.

I re-read my post on SDP. At the very least, I may have mis-represented myself. And at the worst, I was outright lying to myself and to you guys. Anyway, I think the problem started when I said the nature of the Sugar Daddy relationship is 90% business and 10% personal. I cringed when I realized I had said that. I'm pretty sure I was trying to describe SD's in general with that comment, but I ended up sounding like a greedy gold-digging skank.

In my own personal life, I haven't viewed my own SDs that way. When you're not full service (like me), that takes the "services rendered" part right out of the relationship. That's why I'm totally up front with anyone who wants to see me outside of work. Let me tell ya - I've lost a lot of potential SD's that way too, but I'm not going to sit there and take someone's money and just lead him around thinking he's gonna get it eventually. One of you guys commented along those lines, and I assure you I would never do that.

Now I've had guys accuse me of "leading them on" many times. But these were all just regular customers. Let me take a moment to explain something to those guys: IT'S JUST A HANDJOB. You're not special - you all got one.

Anyway, let's get back to SDP. I will be the first to confess that I was NOT totally upfront with him on this. And that's why I had to eventually explain it before things moved on. And I'm pretty sure it's clear now (t least I hope it's clear now).

I've been friends with all of my past SDs. Still am in some cases. Like I've said before, it's hard to NOT have sex sometimes. All the guys I take on as SDs are doing it for the company, the arm candy, and the occasional hand release (and in one rare case for pimping out a girlfriend to one of their buddies, but that's another story). When I think about it now, I can recall only once that I eventually had to let a SD go because he wanted to "upgrade" to full service.

So that's the real story. Am I back peddling from what I said before? Maybe! But it's a girls right to change her story to make herself look better. Give me some slack - it's Christmas!



Aneris said...

You do not come across as a skank or a GD. Not that there is wrong if you did.

The percentage you listed might be off but it is business. Negotiations are made, deals are struck.

It is your right to draw lines and boundaries, as you see fit.

Anonymous said...

Glad to hear it, CJ.

Adam said...

I was always under the impression that a sugar daddy/ sugar baby relationship would eventually lead to some form of intimacy. Maybe I read the post wrong but if you don't upgrade to "full service" than maybe he shouldn't be called "sugar daddy" and you "sugar baby". Perhaps another term is in order...

PS: Love the blog, makes for great reading while I am killing time at work!

Famously Single said...

Tell people to stop judging you! I for one love the blog, and if it wasn't you, I'd still be trying to figure out how to titty fuck...thanks for that :)

justaguy said...

i. want. your. job.

cj said...

Dear Single,
Always happy to help a girl out! At least SOMEBODY has learned something useful from here.

Dear Guy,
I'm not sure what to make of that.


Anonymous said...

Hahaha you led him just long enough so that you could get your rent paid while still having enough leeway to buy some awesome christmas gifts...let me guess it was after he gave you the money that you fessed up to not being fs (or maybe during your little date). lol CJ-the Master manipulator of men (I must admit though if I were a woman I might have done the same thing). Hey he's the one whos the sucker and its not like he's exactly starving. You're are dangerous though to clueless guys who don't know better.