Thursday, April 22, 2010

The ATM


With every rule there is an exception - and this applies to my whole 5 Stages of dating thing. I know I've beaten this topic to death, and I swear this will be the last of it (for now). But all our talk this week reminded me about this girl I used to work with.

I used to know "Cynthia" at the old Business. She massaged by day and danced at night, so at the end of any given evening, she was coming home with a boatload of cash. And let me say that she deserved it with all the hours that she worked.

Her husband loved it too. "Bradley" was that rare breed of guy who actually got off on what his wife did for a living and would brag to all his friends about his little "ATM" as he used to affectionately call her.

He loved his little ATM and did not mind one little bit what she did for a living because what she did for a living paid for his truck, and car, and motorcycle, and jet ski, and snowmobile, and all his other little toys and party lifestyle. And Bradley did have it good. His income combined with hers made for a pretty sweet lifestyle.

He was totally cool with what she did and had no jealous feelings. He knew that she wasn't a full service masseuse, and there was nothing threatening going on at the strip club. I guess you could say he was perpetually stuck in Stage 1. And what guy wouldn't be turned on by a wife that gave awesome handjobs and then shaked her ass in lingerie afterwards? Now it would be pretty cool at this point if I could say that she also brought girls home for him to mess around with, but that wasn't the case (if you want that, go read Penthouse Forum). They were just a regular ole husband and wife.

Until...

I left the Old Business before she did so I don't know how her story ends. But when I did leave, things had just started to get interesting. Cynthia was doing exactly what her Bradley should have been worried about all along - she was cheating on him with a customer (strip club, not parlor). He was a Sugar Daddy that she eventually fell for.

And that isn't even the weird part. The weird part is that the Sugar Daddy had gone so far as to befriend the husband, just so he could spend as much time as possible around Cynthia. And it worked out - for a while. They would all spend time together partying. And then it happened...

"... Hey Cynthia, why don't you and your friend fuck while I watch?"

Cynthia told me it was the hardest thing she ever had to do - have sex with her lover in front of her husband, and pretend like it was the first time. Apparently the Sugar Daddy felt the same way.

Now you would think that this was probably the absolute coolest thing that could have happened to Cynthia - two lovers fucking in broad daylight and the husband is OK with it. She did admit it was fun at first but over time it just became sick and twisted. Her feelings of guilt quickly changed over to feelings of disgust towards Bradley. How could he want to watch his wife have sex with another man?

I know all this sounds totally bizarre, but it's exactly where it left off when I lost contact with her. "Cynthia" - if you're out there, I hope everything worked out for you. Last thing she said to me before I quit that job was that she was thinking of leaving her husband for the Sugar Daddy.

OK, so I am totally done with talking about relationships for now. I promise to get back to good old fashioned handjob stories and secrets by next week.

CJ

22 comments:

Tom said...

My guess is that Bradley was one of the guys who gets off on the idea (and actuality) of cuckolding -- their wife having sex with another man in front of them, then taking sloppy seconds. It's not an uncommon kink, actually -- and one that might be useful if your wife works in the sex industry.

Anonymous said...

CJ, the end of this post sounds apologetic for discussing all this relationship stuff, but this has been incredible material. Emotionally complex and honest. Perhaps, as a result, it has been difficult to write about, or maybe less fun, but I for one have really appreciated it. Your blog could simply be funny and titillating, but you have brought way more to it. Thank you for being so incredibly honest and vulnerable. It has been an amazing read, as I'm sure it will continue to be.

-O

Advizor said...

I'll agree with anonymous here and say that these kinds of stories, the emotional twists and turns of being in the business are fascinating reads.

They bring variety to you blog and insight for a guy like me, who finds himself falling for strippers all the time.

:-)

Al Sensu said...

CJ, thank you for writing about this. As the previous commenters say, it really is interesting.

I think there are absolutely guys out there who will be OK with what you do, but I imagine not so many who are that confident in themselves (because that's what it's about). Everything was fine in the Cynthia situation until SHE decided to cheat.

Bradley's idea for her to fuck sugar daddy might have led things down a bad path in any case. Sometimes those kind of things work out and sometimes they endanger the marriage. It's definitely playing with fire (for the married couple), and I say that as someone who was once the third wheel.

Matt said...

Geez, the guy thought nothing of his wife but an ATM and a 3D "in the flesh" porn movie. I bet he'd been dicking around also - maybe had a bi side also - just sayin'

Joker_SATX said...

I am with Matt here. Sounds like Bradley was using her probably as much as she was using him with Sugar Daddy.

I would like to know what their true feelings were for each other.

Regardless, CJ this story was not just fascinating...it was riveting!

....Only in the world of Sex Clubs!

Anonymous said...

Maybe he called her ATM because she did Ass To Mouth???

Capsule said...

I contend Bradley already knew she was fucking sugar, and he didn't want to see his ATM go away, so he compromised a little.

I find it funny she got upset at Bradley for being willing to share her, when she was short changing him. Remember, withdraw from another company's ATM and there's bound to be penalties...


It's your blog, CJ, write about whatever you want to. If people don't like a particular topic, they can always skip it and check back the following week...

ReflexVE said...

A former boss of mine was like that, he liked his wife to have sex with other men and then take sloppy seconds. I really didn't understand it, and was not suprised when things ended up in divorce a few years later.

Matt said...

Joker, you are right, this stuff is riveting, isn’t it? This blog has got me hooked for sure.

David said...

I think that you posting about your own feelings gives people a different window into the behind the scenes of being an erotic masseuse. That is what some people come to your blog for, and so for those readers, this is very informative and interesting.

Others just come for the raw imagery for the sexual thrill, and those people might not be interested as much.

I think it has to do with people being able to seperate the physical interaction versus the emotional interaction. Bradley was ok with Cynthia's physical interactions with other men, as long as emotionally she was his. At first Cynthia was ok interacting with other men physically because she was able to keep them seperate, and it wasn't until she emotionally attached significance to Sugar Daddy that it started causing problems. Then she was having to share the emotional attachment and that didn't go so well.

I see this with you in that you are able to keep your interactions with customers on the physical level, and emotionally you are in control of the situation. You had a post a while ago where you were pegging a customer and it got a little messy, and that scared you because you had lost emotional control of the situation.

In a relationship, you need to be clear on what the expectations are, and when those change it can cause problems if both people are not on the same page. I think these posts are causing you to explore and understand your own emotions/feelings, and while that may be uncomfortable to do, I think you will be better for it by doing it.

Anonymous said...

Your relationship postings are very interesting, fabulous writing.

Anonymous said...

CJ

Ever known someone who dated an escort?

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cj said...

Guys,
I'm still surprised that some of you are interested in hearing about my personal relationship stuff, but it is hard for me to talk about. I'll try to open up a bit more in the future (especially now that things are finally picking up in that department). However, I still find it much more fun to talk about other peoples problems!!!

I really wish I knew how Cynthia's stories ends. I promise that if I ever hear anything new, I'll post an update.


Anon,
Ass to mouth???? It actually has a term???? Yikes.


Last Anon,
I've known full service masseuses who had boyfriends/husbands if that counts. Most of them had absolutely no idea what their girls did for a living. At least not the full service bit. Occasionally you do see that one guy who doesn't mind that his wife fucks guys for money in a massage parlor - as long as the she keeps bringing that cash home. Oh well.

CJ

Matt said...

Honey, you can talk about whatever you like - I just love reading the stories!

Anonymous said...

Something you might find amusing. . .

http://www.ishootporn.com/?p=4907

Anonymous said...

CJ

I figure there are men married to porn stars and they make it work.
I figure as long as my Girlfriend can be honest and happy, I don't care how she makes her money.

Anonymous said...

I love watching a girl take on 2 or 3 guys, so I love it even more thinking about my wife taking on 2 or 3 guys. Sex has been great with her for the last 10 years, and I suppose it has evolved a bit here and there to keep it that way. I slowly started hinting during forplay, fantasizing with her that 2 of my friends were watching us. It got her extremely hot and wet. These days, I've escalated it to my two friends joining in. she plays along and comes 2 or 3 times at just the thought of it. I get her to pose for photos and video telling her I'm going to show my friends, because they are all really hot for her.

probably wont take it to the next step.... or maybe I will.

-a!

Anonymous said...

This is Ph.D. dissertation material--not quite sure in what field. It helps to choose a topic that turns you on.

Anonymous said...

Ass-to-mouth is often referred to as "rimming"...

People ARE twisted!
I met a guy and his girlfriend once. He was practically flaunting her and I found that weird (but thought he was just proud of her). Then I later found out that the no-good, lazy bum, a wannabe musician, was prostituting her. She had a SD who had hooked her up with a nice appartment and would come to town to fuck her once in a while. The proceeds funded her pimp/boyfriend's studio sessions and such. She was his "ATM"...
The poor girl was also HIV-positive and her pimp had taken to calling her a "monster" because of it.
Like most pimps and abusers, he was also a big pussy, which I confirmed the day I made him cry for me to stop kicking his sorry ass. =)

Anonymous said...

i often wonder where they get the titles to all those damn free porn movies!!...lol.